NLAP
receives calls from friends, co-workers, employers, judges, family
members and colleagues of a lawyer, judge or law student who may be
struggling. Sometimes the source of the difficulties is known. Other
times, the caller may have just noticed warning signs. We can talk you
through the situation, discuss resources available and develop a plan.
We are not disciplinary counsel. We are not here to judge, just to
offer help.
It can be difficult to approach someone, but don’t
let the uncomfortability of the situation deter you. If you want
coached on how to start a conversation, we can help. If you want us to
be there when you approach someone, that is also an option. Finally, if
you are not comfortable with approaching the person to discuss your
concerns, then NLAP can reach out directly and offer help.
Tips on How to Encourage Someone to Get Help | Ask – | | Do not argue with the person or cross examine them. Come from a place of concern, not judgment. Focus on the signs and symptoms you have observed. | | | | | | Listen – | | Don’t assume you know the cause of the struggles. Get the person talking. Focus on how the situation is affecting the person and the people around them. Nonverbal communication is important too.
| | | | | | Refer – | | Do not diagnose the person. Refer them to a mental health professional. Diagnosis is an important first step in understanding the situation and finding hope that things can change. If possible, identify professional resources before you approach them. | | | | | | Encourage – | | It may take more than one conversation to get there. Be patient, but persistent. If someone accepts professional help, keep encouraging them throughout the assessment and treatment process. Let them know when you have seen positive changes. |
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